About me

Just a little note, before I begin…

If you’ve found your way here via the torturous path of infertility then, welcome. To give you a heads up, IVF did work for me and, after seven treatment cycles, I did get my miracle. I do write about my son, amongst many other things, and understand it could be painful for you to read about my family life. And that’s completely fine! I’ve tried to set out my blog so that those battling infertility can, hopefully, find a safety net of support, care and shared experiences, without having to plough through other posts. To get straight to the infertility pieces, I’d suggest starting here and following the links at the end of each article.

Hello and welcome to The Cuckoo Mama! I’m Caro, mama to Sam and Pepper pup and wife to Hugh. I’m a stay at home mama, IVF warrior, ruler of the household and, like to think, all round good egg!

I’ve always had a love of writing, beginning with childhood, typewriter written tomes about ‘Jane of Lilac Grove’, and culminating in a journalism degree. For me, it was always about the column pieces; having the freedom to write from my point of view about whatever it was I wanted to. Obviously, in the early 2000s, when the internet was new and slow and actually had a dial tone to connect, blogging wasn’t even a twinkle in my eye and I knew that, in all likelihood, I’d never be a columnist! Therefore, upon graduating, I decided not to pursue a journalistic career but, rather, ended up in Private Equity, via teacher training. Yes, that obvious route! Finally, in May 2017, after being at home for almost two years, I took the plunge, got over my technophobia, and did something very much for me; I returned to my writing roots and The Cuckoo Mama was born!

I’d originally set out to create a blog which could act as a forum for creative play, nutritious meals and generally be a place for veritable Mary Poppins-esque folks to connect. And then it all changed and, in a way, quite naturally just became what you see today; an honest, raw and, sometimes, amusing account of the roller-coaster that is infertility and the, subsequent, pandemonium that is parenting.

Since beginning to blog I’ve started volunteering for Fertility Network UK and Fruitful Fertility. I’ve started writing for the Huff Post UK, and The Baby Spot. I’ve also started to heal: Infertility sucks and IVF is tough. I have learned that I am not defined by infertility but have taught myself to feel proud of my journey, proud of who I am and of all I have achieved.

So welcome to my, somewhat traditional, blog, where it’s all about me, all about us, all about infertility and all about my many accidental musings along the way, because, in life; we really are all just trying our best!

Thanks for stopping on by! And please don’t hesitate to get in touch!

Caro x