No one ever wants to fail and, when we inevitably do, it’s not something we enjoy. But why would we? Failure is distressing. It batters our self esteem and leaves us doubting our own worth. And it niggles; what if? what could? what now? It preys on our minds, constantly, ravaging our mental health and … More Beautiful people do not just happen
Four years ago, last week, my son was “defrosted”. This was the culmination of years of trying to conceive, multiple cycles of IVF, miscarriage and repeated heartbreak. Yet, with thanks to advances in reproductive science, he was created in a petri-dish, vitrified, thawed and is currently a very happy and active three-year-old boy. Medical science … More Frozen, fortunate and fighting
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear” – Mark Twain. Thank you, my husband, for finding the courage to raise your voice with mine… I’m Hugh. One half of an infertile couple. The infertile half. I’m not much of a blogger and not usually one to write much at all … More The other side of our story, by Hugh
It’s exactly five years ago, today, that I peed on a stick, to see whether we were pregnant, following years of “trying” and our first round of ICSI. I remember waking early, huddling in my parents’ freezing cold bathroom, peeing, then waiting. Waiting for that second pink line to appear. Waiting to see whether our … More An unexpected ray of sunshine
Living with infertility is many things but, I’m sure anyone who has ever been there will agree, it can feel incredibly overwhelming. Not only is it an emotionally frightening void of heartbreak, pain and the unknown, it’s also utterly and completely petrifying, when faced with the medical science side of things. It’s as is, overnight, … More #ivfwebinars with Egg Donation Friends
When Huff Post UK approached me to write a piece on Michelle Obama, miscarriage and IVF, I was completely honoured, overwhelmed and scared; I desperately wanted to give this courageous revelation the words it so rightly deserved. And so, I did what I do, and began to write. I think I cried through every sentence. … More Huff Post UK, Michelle Obama, infertility, IVF & miscarriage
Goodness me! It’s here again. Another year has passed and another birthday is fast approaching. And so I’ve, naturally, been reminiscing! About that tiny, and surprisingly hairy, new born I nursed, the infant I weaned and the babe whose hand I held as he learned how to walk. The boy who smiled, and laughed, who … More Reflecting, accepting & screaming
One of the questions I’ve often been asked, by the friends and family of those undertaking fertility treatments, is: What is IVF? Huge topic hey? I am absolutely by no means an expert or a scientist or even have any medical background; I’m merely a person who went through multiple rounds of fertility treatments. But, … More What is IVF?
As Louise Brown, the world’s first “test tube” baby, turns 40, this month, we’re reminded of the joy IVF can bring to millions of people worldwide. However, what is often forgotten is that IVF fails. Fact. It’s an incredibly sad truth and one which not everyone is aware of, initially, including me. There’s a huge … More IVF Fails. Fact.
You might remember that a couple of months ago, Jess Jones, from Infertility and Life blog, recently guest posted for The Cuckoo Mama. Jess is currently undergoing her first frozen embryo transfer (FET)*. Sadly, the four fresh cycles of IVF she’s already gone through, haven’t ended with the miracle she’d hoped. After experiencing the grief … More The BFP after IVF – my guest post